This past Sunday my Pastor gave me a front row beating that was near ungodly. I was so hurt and frustrated and angry with the message he was speaking I kept trying to leave! My skin literally began to crawl…
I know that I have been hurt, I know I struggle letting go of the past, I know I struggle forgiving. So what else? What else are you going to tell me? I was mad- I mean I pray that I change and I am able to do better, I pray a lot about my hurt and pain and it hasn’t changed.
I sat front row center on Sunday- and it felt like Pastor Art jumped off that “stage” and beat me with the hand of God. I have never had an experience like that.
He spoke about un forgiveness leading to RESENTMENT:
Resentment (also called ranklement or bitterness) is the experience of a negative emotion (anger or hatred, for instance)[1] felt as a result of a real or imagined wrong done.
Than he talked about this resentment and how it leads to certain things:
Anger, jealousy, ANXIETY, depression and eventually it can kill you or lead to wanting to die.
That was me. I have suffered unrelenting resentment towards my 9 year old for the way he treats me. (you have to read old posts) So much so that I was livid that my husband could show so much love to him immediately after watching him verbally and on occasion physically attack me. How? How do you act like everything is okay? I am so hurt an broken and you are holding hands and getting “quality time”. What about me?
It lead to serious bouts of depression and anxiety- I came from 10 years of abuse and entered a marriage where I endure abuse from a child. They are few things as an adult that you can do to protect yourself from a child. I found myself just angry- I lost all joy. There were times I questioned if I could go on.
Lord, it is not just un forgiveness I face but resentment! Resentment was killing me. I wanted him to feel how sad and hurt I was- like it would matter.
What a FOOL? I AM SELFISH AND FOOLISH! I know that I am suppose to change to see change and I feel like I have but I am constantly pushed because I am not reaping the rewards of my efforts as fast as I would like. ME, ME,ME.
I know that there is so much I need to heal from and it is a difficult road and a long one at that. So I will press through and believe that God knows my heart and is aware of my pain. I know that I was not created to suffer forever- and that eventually this pain will become my testimony. I will be able to use what I have endured to reach out to others.
What areas do you hold resentment? How do you deal with un forgiveness?
Always remember no matter what you are going through, you are not alone.
~T